Could You Be the Next Clara Harris?

Infidelity affects 80% of all marriages today. Current statistics indicate that the majority of women are likely to become victims of infidelity at some point in their lives – a situation for which most women are totally unprepared.

Any woman suddenly thrust into an infidelity situation could react the way Clara Harris did. Even though affairs develop in stages, they usually take most women by surprise. What would you do if it happened to you?

Below are 18 probing questions to ask yourself about your marriage and extramarital affairs. I call this questionnaire “The Clara Harris Quiz”

If Clara Harris had taken this quiz before learning about her husband’s affair, she would have answered no to almost every question on the list.

The questions force you to take a long hard look at yourself and your marriage. The answers will probably reveal more than you really want to know. But they can show you just how vulnerable you are to something you think (or hope) will never happen to you. Clara certainly never expected it to happen to her.

Your potential for becoming the next Clara Harris increases with each No answer you give. As you answer the questions with an honest “Yes” or “No,” take time to ponder what each question implies.

Could you be the next Clara Harris? Answer the questions below and find out.

1. Have you ever considered the possibility that your husband might have an affair?


2. Do you know how to recognize the telltale signs of infidelity – not just the obvious signs, but the subtle ones as well?


3. Are you familiar with the early warning signs of an affair?


4. Do you know what to do if you suspect your husband of having an affair?


5. Do you know your husband well enough to detect subtle changes in his behavior, habits or routine that could indicate a possible affair?


6. Do you know what you should avoid doing if you discover that your husband is having an affair?


7. Do you know how to tell if your husband is a potential cheater?


8. Have you and your husband ever discussed your feelings about infidelity or extramarital affairs?


9. Do you encourage your husband to openly discuss any complaints or disappointments he may have about you or the marriage?


10. Do you know the situations or circumstances that make a marriage vulnerable to an affair?


11. Do you periodically do a reality check or take stock of your marriage to insure that everything is okay?


12. Is there a trusted adult friend (or a trained professional) you can confide in about any marital problems that crop up?


13. Do you know how to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the possibility of your husband having an affair?


14. Do you have an “infidelity plan” in place for handling the situation if your husband should have an affair?


15. Have you ever given any serious thought as to what you would do if your husband asked for a divorce?


16. If your husband were cheating, would you know the correct way to confront him about his affair?


17. Could you keep your emotions in check if you found out your husband was having an affair?


18. Do you know the best strategy for dealing with the Other Woman if your husband is having an affair?

What did your answers reveal? How close are you to becoming the next Clara Harris?

Now that you’ve taken this quiz, you may want to send for the Special Report entitled “How You Can Avoid Becoming the Next Clara Harris – Infidelity Information You Should Know.” To get your FREE copy of this Special Report, send an e-mail to InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “Clara Harris Report” in the subject line.

Clara Harris Was the Last to Know

You may remember the case of Clara Harris, the woman who ran over and killed her cheating husband after confronting him with his mistress leaving a local hotel. He’d led Clara to believe he was ending in his affair.

I became obsessed with the Clara Harris case from the very beginning and have continued to follow it closely ever since, because it’s a “worst case scenario” of what can happen when a wife is the last to know. That’s why my book, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs stresses the importance of women learning how to recognize the signs of infidelity. ( http://www.is-he-cheating-on-you.com/ ) There’s no doubt in my mind that this story would have had a very different ending if Clara Harris had recognized the signs of infidelity in time. But like 26 million other unsuspecting wives, Clara was the last to know.

Given enough time, the likelihood is high that Clara’s plan to save her marriage might have worked. But she just didn’t have enough time. By the time Clara found out about her husband’s affair, it had already reached the point of no return – a consequence of being the last to know.

Clara’s Desperate Attempts to Save Her Marriage

As soon Clara Harris found out about her husband's affair, she did everything she could think of to save her marriage. She

• obtained detailed information from her husband on what attracted him to the other woman


• had a heart to heart talk with her husband about their marital problems.


• went to a salon and had her hair cut and lightened to blonde


• had her nails done


• joined a gym / health club


• hired a personal trainer.


• made a $5000 deposit for breast augmentation surgery and liposuction


• cooked all her husband's favorite meals


• began having sex with him at least 3 times each night


• went shopping for sexy clothes


• bought seductive lingerie from Victoria's Secret


• took a leave of absence from her job at the couple’s chain of dental clinics so she could devote all her time to her husband


• fired her husband’s mistress, who worked as a receptionist at the same dental clinic as her husband


• persuaded her husband to agree to end his affair with the other woman


• had her stepdaughter buy her 2 relationship books


• hired a private investigator


• discussed seeing a marriage counselor

And she did all this in the space of 7 days. Clara Harris wasted no time. Clearly, here was a woman who was serious about saving her marriage. She found out about the affair on July 16. Her husband confessed to the affair on July 17. Clara’s efforts to save her marriage might have succeeded, by July 24, David Harris was dead. Intent on doing everything she could to save her marriage from the day she discovered his infidelity until the day David Harris was killed, Clara never considered the possibility that her efforts would be in vain.

A few days were not enough time to save a marriage that had been in jeopardy for several months. Clara was mentally and emotionally unprepared for the events that transpired. Instead of taking his mistress to lunch to end the affair, David and Gail checked into a hotel. Not having anticipated this turn of events, Clara’s mind snapped and she lost control. That’s enough to send anybody over the edge.

Nothing can convince me that a woman who went to such lengths in 7 days to save her marriage, would deliberately run over and kill the man she loved. Even in her recent interview with Oprah Winfrey, Clara spoke lovingly of the man she killed. My heart goes out to her because I was once a victim of infidelity myself. I know how devastating it can be.

Everyone But Clara Saw the Telltale Signs

Unknown to Clara Harris, prior to learning about David’s affair, her marriage had been in jeopardy for several months. But like so many other unsuspecting wives, Clara missed or misinterpreted the telltale signs. Yet, if she had known what to look for, the telltale signs were there for her to see.

Clara was surrounded by people who saw the signs of her husband’s infidelity. Her stepdaughter, Lindsey saw the signs. Employees at the couple's chain of dental clinics saw the signs. Even the Harris children's nanny saw the signs. They all testified to this at Clara’s trial. In retrospect, Clara then realized that she too, had seen some of the warning signs, but didn't realize the significance of what she was seeing at the time. Because Clara was unfamiliar with the subtle signs of infidelity, she had no idea these things were indicative of an extramarital affair. Since she had no idea what to look for, Clara was the last to know.

There was a televised interview with Clara Harris which was put under gag order by the judge during her trial. When the trial was over, this interview was aired. In it, Clara spoke of how she used to scoff at women who claimed not to know their husbands were cheating. Clara said, "I used to think that when wives said ‘Oh, I didn't know my husband was having an affair,' that they were blind. How could they not know? But I didn't know."

The Danger of Not Recognizing the Signs in Time

An estimated 38 to 53 million wives are victims of infidelity. But like Clara Harris, 2/3 of those wives have no idea their husbands are having an affair. As widespread as infidelity is, most of it goes undetected, because its victims fail to recognize the telltale signs.

The longer the affair goes undetected, the stronger the bond between the husband and his mistress becomes. The sooner a wife spots the signs of infidelity, the better her chances are of salvaging her marriage and short-circuiting the affair. Even if the marriage can’t be saved, spotting the signs early on gives the wife time to mentally and emotionally adjust to the realization that her marriage is about to end.

A Lesson for Every Wife

The lesson here is that every woman should learn to recognize the telltale signs of an affair. A wife can no longer afford to be the last to know. The future of her marriage may one day depend on her ability to recognize the warning signs in time. That’s why throughout my book ( Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs ) I strongly emphasize the importance of knowing how to recognize the telltale signs -- not just the obvious signs of infidelity that everyone knows about, but the dozens of subtle signs that most women overlook.

Know what to look for so you can spot the signs early on. For the sake of your marriage, you can’t afford to be the last to know. Being the last to know deprived two children of their parents, cost Clara Harris her freedom, and cost David Harris his life.

If you'd like to receive a copy of my Special Report which describes the 21 Major Categories of Signs of Infidelity, send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the word “ Signs” in the subject line.

My Interest in the Clara Harris Case

The Clara Harris case continues to be of particular interest to me because an estimated 38 to 53 million wives are victims of infidelity. Like Clara Harris, 2/3 of those wives have no idea their husbands are having an affair, because they miss or misinterpret the telltale signs.

The longer an affair goes undetected, the closer the husband and his mistress become, and the harder it is for the wife to get her marriage back on track. By the time Clara Harris found out about her husband’s affair, it had already reached the point of no return

This tragedy might have been avoided if Clara Harris had recognized the early warning signs of infidelity. But like 26 million other unsuspecting wives whose husbands are involved in an affair, Clara Harris was the last to know.

Everyone around Clara knew about her husband’s affair -- Clara’s stepdaughter, the children’s nanny, employees at the couple’s dental clinics -- they all testified to this at her trial. Clara was the last to know. Like most victims of infidelity Clara missed or misinterpreted the warning signs. The Clara Harris tragedy is a “worst case scenario” of the consequences of not recognizing the signs of infidelity in time.

The lesson here is that every woman should learn to recognize the telltale signs of an affair. Her marriage may one day depend on her ability to recognize those signs in time.